Kipling said:

“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. To be your own man [or woman] is a hard business. If you try it – you will be lonely often and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.”

I have been asked, ” why do you pursue these issues, and allow grey men [and women] to victimise  you?”

My answer is that if you read the autopsy reports on my parents, you would do the same.